My best advice: To find love, develop your empathy muscle. In my experience, many middle-aged men have let it atrophy. Dating at fifty was like being in a wolf pack, or worse, a law firm.
Let’s start a movement called the unfun daters where we treat our dates like potential life partners instead of bottom feeders.
I was shocked at all the criticisms I received from men when I started dating in middle age. Instead of taking them to heart, I should have just walked away.
I finally realized that many middle aged daters were living in the past. Dating was an exercise in revenge against the people who’d failed them.
I wanted someone who was invested, and that meant caring about what I cared. A dead air conditioner showed me I'd found the right person.