Some of the worst advice I received as a new widow was to change, anything and everything. But we cautious folk need smaller steps to move on.
Like so many who have fallen into abuse, I rationalized that I could help him to change. He needed me. Having failed to save my husband, I wanted to save someone, even someone who wasn’t very nice to me.
Writing in the Sand at Santa Cruz I'm [...]
A few modest suggestions for the newly widowed as they grieve and begin to regroup.
When I was widowed, I couldn't stop thinking I was doing it wrong. But all we really have to do is to stop judging our own grieving.