Some of the worst advice I received as a new widow was to change, anything and everything. But we cautious folk need smaller steps to move on.
Like so many who have fallen into abuse, I rationalized that I could help him to change. He needed me. Having failed to save my husband, I wanted to save someone, even someone who wasn’t very nice to me.
Writing in the Sand at Santa Cruz I'm [...]
Can we finally just say we feel lonely and isolated? These times feel like first being widowed, and yet, there is solace in small things.
I wanted someone who was invested, and that meant caring about what I cared. A dead air conditioner showed me I'd found the right person.