Embracing Change When You’re Widowed and Extremely Cautious
Some of the worst advice I received as a new widow was to change, anything and everything. But we cautious folk need smaller steps to move on.
The Intersection of Guilt and Abuse: When we fail to believe we deserve better
Like so many who have fallen into abuse, I rationalized that I could help him to change. He needed me. Having failed to save my husband, I wanted to save someone, even someone who wasn’t very nice to me.
What if Valentine’s Day Became “Loneliness Awareness Day”
Writing in the Sand at Santa Cruz I'm [...]
Confessing to Loneliness at the End of the World
Can we finally just say we feel lonely and isolated? These times feel like first being widowed, and yet, there is solace in small things.
On Wanting Someone Invested or I Fell in Love Over an Air Conditioner
I wanted someone who was invested, and that meant caring about what I cared. A dead air conditioner showed me I'd found the right person.